Ok I started this as a draft and deleted it a while back so I'm going back to it. You know how people or things give people signals about something? For example, body language can tell us if a person is bored, tired, upset, happy or what their mood is. Other signals suggest that it's time to move on or do something else. Many people can read signals and I admire it for them.
The problem with me, is that I can't read signals. No seriously, I can't read signals around people like if it's time to back off, or go somewhere with them. If you ask me are you going to go with me to a Con or to this booth or even but do it in a normal kind of way it will take me a couple of minutes if that for me to pick it up. I can't read signals very well and if guys are hitting on me, sorry no offense I couldn't tell if you were hitting on me or not. Seriously, guys have tried to hit on me a lot lately and I think I turn them off because I don't know how to respond. It could be because, I've always been shy or not very sociable, I did have one relationship and the guy pulled an Anakin Skywalker/Vader on me and broke my heart. It's been ages since I've been in the game ,and I want to get back in the game, I'm just very very scared to. However, there is another part of me that says I can get along just fine without a significant other. Then again, no one should ever be lonely...I can't interpret the signals that my heart is giving me but I guess even though I say I can get along just fine without someone in my life, I am very lonely and afraid to take the risk again but I want the risk. Sorry, again reading that sentence, you can tell that's mixed signals because I don't know how to confront my feelings on the matter of a significant other. I want to be happy, I just don't know how.
I think one clear signal I did pick up and I hate it because it makes me feel very uncomfortable is that I shouldn't costume Luke. I'm not sure why, I'm not sure if the person who made that slight comment meant it in the way that they did but for whatever reason it's bothered me the past few weeks. Whereas most costumers shrug it off, because of my lack of signal reading I can't shrug it off, I hold it against people or I brood for a long time. It sparked off the comment that I posted in Facebook the other night that I was thinking of giving up costuming and resuming a "normal" life. Though what is normal? I could go off on a whole nother tanget but I will behave and yes for those of you who are going to bombard my FB with who is saying this stuff? I will say this, I am going to keep doing Luke because one of my best friends has done an excellent job on him and I love being my imaginary friend!!
I mean seriously, if you say that I suck as a costumer, or something that is meant to be taken one way but I take it another I will brood for a long time over it thinking that there is something wrong with me. I really can't read signals well so if you meant something you may have to clarify, especially if it's a signal. So don't feel bad, it's not you...it's me.
Again, if you are trying to say something to me and I don't get it. Don't get mad with me, it's just that I can't read your signals.
Thursday, July 18, 2013
Friday, July 5, 2013
Please Play Nice!!!
I've seen a very disturbing trend lately, or maybe it's been going on for a while and I've been blind to it but lately I've been seeing a lot of "Look at me I am the best of the best and I want attention" posts. I've seen most of these on Facebook in my feeds, friends, private or personal even though I have tried to screen them out I'm just getting sick of them.
Recently, I saw a feed for a show about Cosplayers and of course it's the best of the best cosplayers/costuming but I don't need to see it advertised 20 different times in my feed. I don't need to see the perfect bodied female geek plastered all over my wall. Furthermore, the feeds that I've seen lately are more of the scantily clad cosplayers or the cosplaying show that shows only the best of the best with the perfect body and the perfect costume. Yes, there is a point that you should be proud of your costume, you or your seamstress/builder should be proud of the hard work that has been put into making your Geek dreams come true, but you should not brag you're the best.
In my view, bragging that you have the supreme god of god costumes, or the epic costume of the con means that you really don't care about having fun, but rather running around and making everyone feel insecure, or showing off what a pompous jerk you are. Granted, there are a lot of costumes that I admire, but I really dislike people at cons that brag that they are the brightest and best. If I like your costume, I'll say it but if you say that "I'm the only one that can wear this costume" then you and I will have a problem.
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I say this because there are some people that have contacted me in private about me being Luke or Padme'. Some have said that I'm too fat for either, some say that because I'm a girl that I can't do Luke or they've just been really nasty to me. I will say this to them "BITE ME!!!" I love being Luke and I love being Padme' and besides Padme is pregnant in Episode III with both Luke and Leia so I can use my weight to my advantage for that costume. Luke has been a dream since I was a little girl and just because I'm not 150 pounds yet doesn't mean I'm not going to costume him. I've got a very special request to do Luke and yes, we are still working on him to get him right for the RL judges but I tell you I enjoy the costume and I will be wearing him as long as my body can endure it, and as long as people want him.
The point of this blog that I'm trying make is that bragging about your costume is ok as long as it doesn't affect other people's fun or demeans them. If you say "You can't costume that" you are being a jerk and unprofessional and not representing the character you are trying to portray. Furthermore, it's ok to costume as any character you want, but be thankful when people ask for photos with you...always say thank you, always be polite to each other. In other words...Play Nice!!!
One other area that I want to touch on is please if you are going to use photos ask the person you are borrowing from if you can use those photos. I've had a few of my friends who have had their photos plastered all over the internet when they didn't want them to. I know a rule that I follow is that if my parents wouldn't approve of it it doesn't go up on Facebook. Yes, I have silly costume photos of Padme, Luke and the Guard on Facebook, but I make sure that those silly photos are not used against me. If I borrow photos or share them, or blog about them I try to give them credit or the photographer the credit. However, I'm getting really tired of seeing photos of my friends being used without permission or asking first. I try to ask people before borrowing and yes if I post a YouTube video then I try to give credit where credit is due.
Also, I know I know, if the person posted it they should know the risks of posting such photos on the internet. Maybe, they wanted to share their costume with the rest of the costuming world or the groups they are in. Yes, they are aware that said costumes can get them in trouble with work or other interests, but have the decency to ask them first before taking their photo.
That's all I ask people.
-Jane
In my view, bragging that you have the supreme god of god costumes, or the epic costume of the con means that you really don't care about having fun, but rather running around and making everyone feel insecure, or showing off what a pompous jerk you are. Granted, there are a lot of costumes that I admire, but I really dislike people at cons that brag that they are the brightest and best. If I like your costume, I'll say it but if you say that "I'm the only one that can wear this costume" then you and I will have a problem.
******
I say this because there are some people that have contacted me in private about me being Luke or Padme'. Some have said that I'm too fat for either, some say that because I'm a girl that I can't do Luke or they've just been really nasty to me. I will say this to them "BITE ME!!!" I love being Luke and I love being Padme' and besides Padme is pregnant in Episode III with both Luke and Leia so I can use my weight to my advantage for that costume. Luke has been a dream since I was a little girl and just because I'm not 150 pounds yet doesn't mean I'm not going to costume him. I've got a very special request to do Luke and yes, we are still working on him to get him right for the RL judges but I tell you I enjoy the costume and I will be wearing him as long as my body can endure it, and as long as people want him.
The point of this blog that I'm trying make is that bragging about your costume is ok as long as it doesn't affect other people's fun or demeans them. If you say "You can't costume that" you are being a jerk and unprofessional and not representing the character you are trying to portray. Furthermore, it's ok to costume as any character you want, but be thankful when people ask for photos with you...always say thank you, always be polite to each other. In other words...Play Nice!!!
One other area that I want to touch on is please if you are going to use photos ask the person you are borrowing from if you can use those photos. I've had a few of my friends who have had their photos plastered all over the internet when they didn't want them to. I know a rule that I follow is that if my parents wouldn't approve of it it doesn't go up on Facebook. Yes, I have silly costume photos of Padme, Luke and the Guard on Facebook, but I make sure that those silly photos are not used against me. If I borrow photos or share them, or blog about them I try to give them credit or the photographer the credit. However, I'm getting really tired of seeing photos of my friends being used without permission or asking first. I try to ask people before borrowing and yes if I post a YouTube video then I try to give credit where credit is due.
Also, I know I know, if the person posted it they should know the risks of posting such photos on the internet. Maybe, they wanted to share their costume with the rest of the costuming world or the groups they are in. Yes, they are aware that said costumes can get them in trouble with work or other interests, but have the decency to ask them first before taking their photo.
That's all I ask people.
-Jane
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